The role of a Court Appointed Special Advocate (CASA) often involves navigating complex situations and building trusting relationships with children who have experienced trauma. This month, we celebrate CASA Kelle, whose dedication and persistent efforts highlight the profound impact a consistent adult can have on a child’s life. CASA Kelle’s journey with 12-year-old Aaron* demonstrates how her empathy, patience, and unwavering commitment to fostering a sense of safety and security led to a bond unlike any other.
Aaron’s life was drastically altered when he and his four siblings were removed from their home, a small room without basic amenities, due to severe neglect. Despite attempts to connect with Aaron’s relatives, he entered foster care in late May of last year. As a newly sworn-in CASA Kelle first met Aaron in June 2024. His caregiver forewarned her that Aaron was quiet and not prone to any kind of interaction. Taking this information, Kelle carefully planned her first visit to create a comfortable environment for Aaron. Upon arriving, she found him withdrawn in a corner. Instead of pushing him to engage, CASA Kelle offered a simple invitation: “Would you like to get some ice cream?” He didn’t speak, but a nod was enough for Kelle. This first visit set the tone for their initial interactions, with Aaron mostly communicating through nods. However, when Kelle asked if he wanted her to return next week, another nod confirmed his willingness to continue building a connection.
CASA Kelle’s perseverance was evident in her subsequent visits. She brought Aaron McDonald’s and played the card game UNO during their second get-together, a significant step in helping Aaron feel more comfortable. CASA Kelle observed that Aaron is quite a strategic player and always wins. After a few games, Aaron began saying “yes” and “no” — a small victory that underscored CASA Kelle’s approach of gentle encouragement. As the months progressed, CASA Kelle’s visits evolved into a consistent and reliable presence in Aaron’s life. He began to greet her with a smile, clearly anticipating his time with Kelle. They have shared activities like going out to eat, hanging out at the park, participating in different Voices for Children events, and playing baseball – all chosen to encourage interaction and communication on Aaron’s terms.
When she learned that Aaron missed his mother, CASA Kelle immediately contacted his social worker and the professionals involved in Aaron’s case to ensure he had more visits with her. Even without verbal confirmation, CASA Kelle noticed Aaron’s big smiles following their visits, which solidified that she was indeed making a difference.
Understanding the significance of small gestures, CASA Kelle secured a donated backpack for Aaron from Voices for Children this August as he started a new school year at a new school. The camouflage backpack not only gave him a sense of security and something new to take pride in, but it was also the first time CASA Kelle saw Aaron look her in the eye and smile – a pivotal moment that reinforced her commitment to continuing to advocate for Aaron however she can. CASA Kelle also proactively contacted his new school, connecting with administrators, teachers, and counselors. CASA Kelle collaborated with Aaron’s social worker and initiated discussions about an Individualized Education Program (IEP), underscoring her commitment to Aaron’s educational success. CASA Kelle attended school meetings, maintained regular contact, and agreed to become Aaron’s educational rights holder following the school’s indication they would do an assessment. In November, Aaron proudly showed CASA Kelle around the school, witnessing Aaron smile a few times, further highlighting his growing trust and comfort.
Today, Aaron is an intelligent, polite, and athletic 13-year-old. He is a good student, achieving straight As and no behavioral problems during the fall 2024 semester. In November, he won the principal’s award for his grades. CASA Kelle continues to encourage him to try new activities, including playing on his school’s flag football team and learning more about baseball. Most importantly, Aaron knows he is worth her time and effort, and that is invaluable. CASA Kelle’s persistence, patience, and unwavering dedication are a testament to the transformative power of building trusting relationships, even with the most reserved of children.
Name: Kelle D.
County: San Diego
Occupation: Financial ServicesBusiness Consultant
Became a CASA in: 2024
Favorite part of being a CASA: “The opportunity to serve as a consistent, reliable presence in my youth’s life during a critical and transformative time for them.”
You, too, can make a significant difference in the lives of youth in foster care. Your support and advocacy can be a beacon of hope for young boys like Aaron. Learn more about becoming a CASA volunteer and start making a positive impact today.
*Names and identifying details have been changed to protect confidentiality
Riverside County CASA of the Month – December 2024